Milk and Honey Magazines advice for young women to dress and act modestly and trust God with your insecurities. Christ alone can break chains!

Does Insecurity = Immodesty?

Victoria Freiberg

Lately, I have been contemplating whether insecurity leads to immodesty, and vice versa. Not in regards to dress, but in regards to confusion, shame, and sometimes, even hopelessness in ones heart.

We are all women here, so I am confident all of us has felt this internal sinking that insecurity brings.

Insecurity can feel like drowning. It can feel like you are swimming in this expanse of open water that consists of your own feelings and thoughts. Out of nowhere, this negative self-image attaches itself to your ankles and pulls you under the waves. No matter how much you struggle to break through the surface of the water, these insecure and negative thoughts continue to drag you under. It can feel hopeless, embarrassing, like you are drowning within yourself.

Insecurity attempts to drown your personal sense of beauty.

Beauty is important to women. There’s no way around it. To say beauty doesn’t matter would be like saying your heart and soul don’t matter. The desire to be beautiful, and even beauty itself, is woven deep into the fabric of every woman’s heart. We don’t need to shame beauty. We need to adjust where we gain our perception of beauty from.

The world might say one body type is beautiful. WRONG! God made some women thin, some thicker, some tall, some short, some curvy, some lean. God made all the different body types; He made your body type. Don’t shame your body type or anyone else’s, because God made them all.

That being said. There’s nothing wrong with staying fit, staying active, and eating right. Your body is a temple (1 Corinthians 6:19), you were formed with care (Psalm 139:13-14), so it is good to take care of your body. But that doesn’t mean you have to work out or starve yourself to gain a certain body type. Embrace the body God gave you, seeking to keep it healthy with your lifestyle. Be confident in the way you were made. Own it! God made you! He formed you! Take care of your body, love your body, cloth it with beauty, strength, and confidence!

However, confidence in your body is not the most important thing. It is even more important to focus on cultivating the inward beauty that is precious to the Lord.

I know we have all heard the inward beauty talk, and I’m sure many of us are sick of hearing it. But let me just say one thing. This world is fleeting, your outward beauty will fade, and you will one day die. Don’t spend your life chasing fitness and outward beauty for beauty’s sake alone. Chase God and faith in Him, because it is the only thing that will last. “For while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come,” (1 Timothy 4:8).

Have confidence in your body within the context of an eternal perspective that godliness (which is inward beauty) is the most important thing to possess.

Milk and Honey Magazines advice for young women to dress and act modestly and trust God with your insecurities. He alone can break chains!

Women with a secure mindset, may I argue, also have a modest mindset. Modesty is not about clothing. Modesty is about your thoughts, motives, and heart. If you dress modestly, but flirt up a storm, you are not being modest. If you seem to appear modest but know that your motive behind what you wear is to get guys to look at you with lust, that is not modesty.

Modesty is dressing and acting in a way where you full intention is to honor God.

I believe this looks different for everyone, and most women are convicted in different ways. I also don’t believe my goal should be to change your wardrobe. However, when you get dressed in the morning, or the next time you start talking to that cute boy (or hang out with your boyfriend), I want you to ask these questions: Why am I dressed the way I am? Am I flaunting my body? Do I desire to flaunt my body? Am I purposefully tempting those around me with my words, actions, or dress?

I encourage you to seek out your motives. Find what motivates you to you wear the outfits you wear, talk the way you talk, and act the way you act. Truly ask yourself: Are my motives honoring God? And most importantly, listen to what the Lord says.

If you feel convicted, act on that conviction. If you feel a need to change your outfits or how you take care of your body, by all means change. Just remember: modesty is partly dress, partly how you act, but mainly, it is your motive and heart behind your dress and actions.

I will leave you with one of my favorite verses of all time (one that I think I quote in every article I write), 1 Corinthians 10:31, “Whatever you do, do all for the glory of God.”

Glorify God in your motives, your modesty, your confidence, and in everything you do. Those who are modest are secure. Find your security in God for a modesty of heart.