Milk and Honey Magazine explains to young women why singleness is a gift! God just hasn't brought your Mr. Right yet, lovely girl. Trust in Jesus and HAVE SOME FUN with your girlfriends!

Being Single >

Abby Schiek
02/06/17

I complain all the time about being single. How lonely it is, how annoying it is to not have a dance partner, how sad I feel when I just want to curl up on the couch in the arms of someone who loves me to vent about my day. I see the perfect Instagram picture of a beautiful couple often times reading their bible, sipping on coffee, or working out together with the hashtag #relationshipgoals stamped in a comment, and it sucks every time.

It has been a long time since I've been single, since after my first serious relationship I jumped right into my next one with my ex-fiance… which went downhill. I complain and complain and complain until my friends snap at me and open my blurred eyes. I am single but I am happy.

I may not have a man, but I have a group of friends that I’ve never had before. When I sit and truly reminisce about my “single status,” I realize I’ve done more for myself the last 4 months than I ever have. The last few months have been filled with so many exciting things!

I got a tattoo… yes, you read that right. I permanently marked my body with a tattoo, and it is way bigger than I thought it would be, but I love it! I got a elephant because my little sister was inseparable with her stuffed elephant growing up.

I kicked off fall by going to Oktoberfest with my best friend, we went out and danced the whole night away, something we both needed! Me and a couple of girlfriends completed a local Escape Room, which was just a blast. It was basically a giant scavenger hunt around my town; we lost… horribly…but we laughed uncontrollably. I went to my first Green Bay Packer NFL game! It was one of the best experiences I have ever had, and guess what… I didn’t go with a guy.

I dressed up for Halloween, I’ve had nights out dancing, I’ve worked out with friends, I’ve had sleepovers...

It's helped me realize: I HAVE dance partners, I HAVE people that love me, who will let me curl up on their couch and vent, I HAVE work out buddies. They're called my girlfriends!

So to all my single girls or girls with sub-par boyfriends (because I know there are some of you) - being single is not that bad. Take it from the girl who thought her days as a single lady were over; a girl who when “Single Ladies” came on at a wedding and the bride got ready to toss her bouquet, would stick her nose in the air, put her hand down and flaunt her fiance. A girl who still has her wedding dress (I never got to wear it; it's hanging in the closet).

If you're single - embrace it, even if you have been single for years and you're lonely and ready to find Mr. Right. It can be tough, I get it, but embrace the stage of life! There is a reason you're single still… it is because you haven’t met the man God created for you, and that is okay.

Be encouraged by the fact that there really is someone out there made especifically for you.

And don't be afraid to go on dates; there is nothing more fun than dating and having conversation. We don’t need to marry ever guy who takes us out to dinner, friends. Hey, just look at how much fun I’ve been having being single...

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