75 Questions Before Marrying

“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday.” - Nicholas Sparks

Marriage is beautiful, and the Bible shares just how beautiful a Godly marriage can be. However, the quote above is accurate – it will be hard. There will be rough patches, and life will happen.

That said, these questions can help lay a foundation of rock, not sand, allowing you and your beau to be on the same page together. These questions are designed to prompt conversations yielding truthful conversations, revealing the true nature of their heart. And, if we may offer a recommendation, begin your questions with a prayer, allowing God to shine light on any blind spots and build a strong foundation built on Him!

75 Questions Before Marrying

1. When do you feel most loved?
2. What are your career aspirations?
3. What would you like to be doing five or ten years from now?
4. What do you think is the best way to keep the love alive in a marriage?
5. How do you think life will change if we got married?
6. How big of a Lord do you plan to make the Lord in your life?
7. How do you view gender roles in a marriage?
8. What is the best thing about marriage?
9. What is the worst thing about marriage?
10. What is your idea of the best weekend?
11. How important are wedding anniversaries to you?
12. How would you like to spend special days?
13. What kind of grandparent do you want to be someday?
14. What type of house do you want to live in?
15. What is your biggest fear about marriage?
16. What goals do you have for us?
17. Who do you most admire, and why?
18. Did you enjoy your childhood?
19. If you had a million dollars to give to a charity, which charity would the money go to?
20. Do you think men and women are equals?
21. What is your biggest fear?
22. What makes you angry?
23. What do you need to feel fulfilled in life?
24. Do you think people are more influenced by their environment or by their biological traits?
25. What do you think your purpose is?
26. Who is the villain in your life story?
27. What words do you think people use to describe you?
28. What words do you want people to use to describe you?
29. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
30. When was the last time you cried?
31. Do you think Younger You would be happy with what you have become?
32. What is the best way I can be a supportive partner to you?
33. What has been your greatest accomplishment in life thus far?
34. How can I make you feel more appreciated and honored?
35. What has been the happiest moment of your life up until now?
36. Are there things I say or do that make you want to spend less time with me?
37. For what do you want to be remembered?
38. How can I make you feel more appreciated and honored?
39. What do you think we can do to make our relationship stronger?
40. Do you think we are all at the mercy of fate?
41. When do you feel most loved?
42. If I could live your life for one day, what do you think would surprise me the most?
43. What excites you about getting married?
44. What do wedding rings mean to you?
45. Are you afraid to talk to me about anything?
46. What do you think would improve our relationship?
47. What would be one thing you would change about our relationship?
48. Do you have any doubts about the future of our relationship?
49. Do you believe love can pull you through anything?
50. Is there anything you don't trust about me?
51. Which would you choose - dishes or laundry?
52. Do you like pets?
53. How many pets do you want?
54. What to do you want to do during retirement?
55. At what age would you like to retire?
56. Do you enjoy traveling?
57. What makes you angry?
58. What do you need to feel fulfilled in life?
59. How often would you like to travel?
60. Where would you like to travel?
61. How important is spending time alone to you?
62. How would you feel about me going on a trip with the girls (boys) for a couple of weeks?
63. How important is spending time with friends to you?
64. What would be the perfect weekday evening to you?
65. What would we do if we both had a break from work, but each of us had different ideas on how to spend it?
66. How often would you want to visit your family?
67. How often will your family visit us?
68. How often would you want my family to visit?
69. How often would you want to visit my family?
70. What if one of your family members said he disliked me?
71. How would you handle holiday family visits?
72. If I had to change my diet because of medical concerns, would you be willing to change yours?
73. Are you willing to exercise with me to improve our health?
74. Where do you want to live?
75. What is the best way I can be a supportive partner to you?