Milk and Honey Magazine - singleness is perfectly fine, even in your 30s! With Jesus, we are already full, complete, and in God's control.

Yes, I'm Still Single in My 30's!

Krystle Barrington

...and as long as God's in control, that's perfectly fine.

Singleness is not something we need to overcome. It is a season that lasts longer for some than others. It is a season that may not end for some, as well.

For the woman that just cringed at the last statement, this is not to scare you. I promise!

What I’ve discovered as a 34-year-old single woman is that singleness is not synonymous with loneliness or lacking worth. As I continue to grow in my relationship with God, He continues to reveal to me that this world we live in is not on a mission to push me towards Christ.

Frankly, this world we live in has it’s own set of rules that has the potential to put all kinds of crazy ideas in our heads about our worth if we don’t have someone special in our lives.

For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength. 1 Corinthians 1:25

It’s as if we, as women, have been programmed that by a certain age we are supposed to meet that guy, get engaged, get married, buy the house, and have some babies. I think it’s also important to say that we don’t all want the same things and sometimes not wanting the “picture perfect” life brings even more criticism.

Now that I am in my thirties, I get comments and questions about when I’m going to meet someone or when I’m going to get married on a regular basis. It’s something I tell myself to laugh at, but if I am an honest, it annoys me – simply because I’m happy where I am. I don’t want to be pressured to search for something other people desire for me to have. Honestly, if God didn’t send him my way, I’m not interested.

I believe with all my heart that when we position ourselves as women to let God’s Word shape our perception of ourselves, no matter our relationship status, that is when we begin to let go of the timetables, shame, or pressure the world puts on us.

That is when we position ourselves for what God has planned for our lives. We were not created to live feeling as though we are lacking something. No, instead we are made whole through Christ. We are complete through Him and Him alone.

So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority. Colossians 2:10

I pray we would all learn to quiet the “noise” in our lives and find true peace, joy, and contentment exactly where we are. I pray that what we hope for ourselves is not dictated by pressure from others or our inability to experience the fullness of life in the season we're in.

I hope we wouldn’t miss the opportunity to grow in the most important relationship we could ever have, one with Christ, all because we are longing to hold someone’s hand. I pray we would always see the beauty in where we are in life and trust that God’s plans and timing is better than anything we could ever imagine for ourselves.

And according to the Word of God, Jesus is our true Groom, anyways. The question should be less about having a husband here on Earth and more about making ourselves ready for the Groom awaiting us in Heaven. Are you prepared as His bride?

"Let us rejoice and be glad and give the glory to Him, for the marriage of the Lamb has come and His bride has made herself ready." Revelation 19:7

Milk and Honey Magazine - singleness is perfectly fine, even in your 30s! With Jesus, we are already full, complete, and in God's control.

Written by the beautiful author and speaker Krystle from, pictured above